By GottaLaff
Yesterday Paddy and I posted a piece called "
Democrats Hate Success" that stirred things up a little, both here and on Twitter.
Below are some tweets I got from a fellow Democrat. I won't mention his name because my intention isn't to call him out specifically, or to butt heads, or provoke him into yet another uninvited argument by singling him out. This is not personal.
When I received these tweets, my responses were along the lines of, "I don't engage in fights on Twitter, thanks for your input, I agree with some of your points but not your methods, you're proving my point by name-calling", etc.
We often get baiting comments here at TPC, as well as on Twitter. I have no problem with anyone expressing his/her views, and as I told this tweeter, debate is healthy, but divisiveness is more destructive than helpful.
Let me expand slightly: Insults won't change anyone's mind. Hostility and name-calling alienate. The last thing our party needs is infighting. Express your views respectfully, stand up for your beliefs, but remain civil and accept that there are two sides to every argument.
And be accurate. Making faulty assumptions about someone else's point of view only antagonizes and/or causes disengagement, which, one would think, is not the desired effect.
Here are the tweets from yesterday, with only names removed:
You realize you're attacking Democrats, right? You support the "Cadillac tax"? Did you support it when McCain proposed it?
Bullies like [tweeter] LOVE it when you attack progressives. And you're making progressive policy seem like a wild dream.
It's not really respectful disagreement. And if you talk about 'how', please talk about the procress of this #hcr bill.
I think you're not seeing how Rahm and Obama have turned you into a guilty, weak, self hating liberal.
It's not name calling - Obama and Rahm have cowed you and others into attacking progressive positions and progressives.
Well, you know I'm fan of yours and like you. Please look at how the unions actually got some results. Wasn't by being quiet.
Well, it's true. One of the worst things about what Obama has done is the rift he's opened among progressives. It sucks.
[To a third party] Saying 'attacked' by @GottaLaff was a wrong choice of words. I think she's worn down by the whole thing.
I meant 'not your style' - I meant that you're not an attack person, that's all.
Others really got into it with him, but I don't enjoy fighting, especially when it's pointless. And the author of these tweets and I are still on good terms. Again, I'm not condemning his passion, I just don't see the value or effectiveness in his
modus operandi.
Those of you who are regular readers realize I'm far from being worn down. He was right about my style, though. I save my attacks for snarky political posts, not personal ones on fellow Democrats.
So by baiting and presuming, he not only showed how little he knows me (how many times have I been called out in Comments for criticizing Obama?), but also made me want to dig my heels in more, not suddenly get an epiphany: "Gee whiz! He's right! I'm convinced! What could I have been thinking? I AM a guilty, weak, self-hating liberal! I see the light!"
I understand the frustration of so many current and former Obama supproters. What I don't understand is why anyone would feel that aligning themselves with Republicans is going to work to our advantage.